At the core of things, it might be worth to mention that many marriages break up mainly because of two reasons: Sex and Money.
We already know that sex is on our minds. We hear too much about marriages where there is either too much sex outside the marriage, and/or not enough sex within the marriage. Marriages of the roommate kind as in a roommate marriage with your best friend, a sham marriage (simply a business deal for say immigration purposes or money), sexless marriages that are true marriages in every way except in the bedroom, or open marriages which encompasses sex in and out of the marriage bed. We get concerned with sex outside the marriage scenarios: such as infidelity; having multiple sex partners, sex addiciton, pornography; sex chat rooms, use of prostitutes and escort services. Generally sex becomes an issue when one or both spouses are not happy within the marriage.
However, quite unbeknownst to many people is the role of money in relationships, and how it can effect not only our sex lives, our happiness but can quite literally tear a relationship apart.
Regarding money issues, it is obvious that in today's economic climate, money problems are rampant. Marital discussions can lead to disagreements which lead to arguments which lead to contempt, disrespect, even sometimes domestic violence. Some money issues that emerge in relationships are who works or who pays the bills, who spends the money, and how, who saves, what investments to make, getting a job, etc... And the stress from our material wants and needs often weighs heavy in relationships.
How do you resolve relationship problems that are causing stress and sleepless nights?
First, off it is important to seek professional help, to build coping and communication skills, develop anger management, so that you are able to address these issues in and within your relationship. But secondly, something that is just as important, if not more so, is to understand your own personal relationship with money. Whether we like to admit it or not, we all have preconceived notions about money, about how we should go about spending it, or making it, based on our past experiences with money, or lack there of, what society tells us, what we want and how we were raised. Learning about yourself and dealing with these sometimes deeply ingrained beliefs about money is absolutely essential in today's economy if you don't want money issues to be the downfall of not just your relationships, but your friendships, job satisfaction, and overall life satisfaction. Recognizing that money is often at the root of all relationship evil can be a freeing and liberating experience. Psychotherapy can be the first step to help you come to terms with the root of your relationship problems.