What is Foreplay? Traditionally we have come to
think of foreplay as a series of acts, of the intimate kind, both
psychological and physical between two people, specifically meant to
increase sexual arousal, to lead into the sex act itself and ultimately
leading to climax. "In human sexual behavior, foreplay is meant to
create and increase sexual arousal, in anticipation of sexual
intercourse," From Wikipedia...
However, I would like to
suggest another idea that foreplay starts from the minute you wake up
and continues on throughout the day, week, month etc.. culminating
sometimes in sex and continuing to build and grow even after the sex
act is over, or even if sex does not happen.
Wikipedia continues to say
that foreplay is..."Any act that creates and enhances sexual
stimulation between the sex partners may constitute foreplay, including
kissing, touching, embracing, talking, and teasing (teasing, in this
case, may include methods of satisfaction, such as erotic sexual
denial). The manual or oral stimulation of erogenous zones may be
considered foreplay, as well as being part of the sex act itself.
Sexual role playing, fetish activities, and BDSM can also be considered
foreplay, though they may also accompany intercourse and not just
precede it." Generally speaking Wikipedia and most people think of and
describe foreplay as the specific acts which precede sex to which I
would like to add that the aforementioned gestures they mention such as
touching, embracing, talking teasing, kissing, plus the gestures I'd
like to add flirting, talking dirty, talking sexy should be used not
only during traditional foreplay
but continuously throughout the day and weaved into not just the sexual
side of your relationship but into the life of your relationship as a
whole, to create an ongoing atmosphere of passion and romance. In other
words incorporating all those sexy things that you do right before sex
into your daily world and relationship with your partner if you want to
see your relationship blossom into the virginal flower of beauty and
bliss it could and should be.
Those warm words spoken to
each other as he is getting ready to go to work, is what the two of you
will remember all day. Just because you have to rush off, feed the kids
and take them to school and he is late for his board meeting and
because there is absolutely no time for sex until date night on Saturday night
does not mean your day today and every day cannot be lightly and gently
infused with tiny visions of feathers and lingerie, honey and kisses
floating in the air, every so often.
Small communications that let
each other know how much you care, and also how much you desire them
can do wonders, not to mention bring a smile to their face, a tingle to
the spine and yes, maybe even butterflies to the stomach. Leaving
little post it notes that he/she can read when you are not around,
voice mails, emails, text messages with sexy, romantic, loving,
appreciative words can let a warm glow into someone's stressful or even
humdrum day and leave them eager to arrive home to see you. No, it
might not lead to sex tonight, nor tomorrow night, and maybe not even
this weekend, but that is not the point. It will lead you home.
Body language
is important in foreplay too. A smile, a wink, a gentle touch on the
arm even when you are in a hurry to get to your meeting shows you care
and leaves an imprint, a fond imprint that can not only lead to
increased desire and arousal, but can also shield you two from the days
when the rest of the world may bring you down.
These are all a part of
foreplay, and things like kissing and touching which can increase the
temperature and speed of your arousal leading to sex can also increase
the passion and warmth between you and your mate leading to a more
fulling and satisfying relationship all around.
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